I believe we choose our parents before we are born. This might be a very bold statement if it were not for the fact that many people express the same view.

We have sacred agreements with our parents to come into the world as part of them in order for them to teach us something nobody else could.

And just like us they are on their own journeys and have their own struggles that will allow them to grow.

When we look at our parents as souls just like us and not heavenly beings designed to be perfect we realise a lot.

Ask yourself, Why did I choose my mother/father?

Your qualities as a person are a combination of your mother and fathers positive and negative aspects. Examining your parents will give you a better understanding of them AND a better understanding of yourself.

Make a list of all the positive and negative qualities of your parents.

MOTHER--------------------FATHER

GOOD and BAD-------------GOOD and BAD

This might take some time. Keep it in a place where you can access it easily whenever you think of something. Remember, it can be really big or really small things.

Now write your own list and see how many of their qualities you have inherited.

FROM MOTHER TO ME---------------FROM FATHER TO ME

GOOD and BAD---------------------GOOD and BAD

Now, take a look at the good qualities and you might begin to realise why you chose them. I know you might have friends whom you think have better parents than you but I can assure you that you chose your parents for a reason and the bad qualities are just as important as the good ones.

Take another look at the bad qualities you have inherited. Is it not better to be able to recognise them?

You see, once you recognise them, you can change them.

Some people go through their whole lives not willing to face their negative qualities. That is one of the main reasons we have chosen to be in this world- to discover and grow

Wouldnt you prefer to KNOW yourself intimately and be able to change what it is you dont like about yourself rather than have others always talking about it behind your back?

YOUR PARENTS MIGHT BE RESPONSIBLE FOR WHO YOUR ARE BUT YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR WHO YOU BECOME

There is nobody you can go to and complain when you die- YOU are the ONLY ONE losing out when you hold onto the past.

FORGIVE YOUR PARENTS AND RELEASE THE PAST

Appreciate the things they DID do and know that they probably did the best they could with the resources they had.